Sow a thought, reap an action;Sow an action, reap a habit; Sow a habit, reap a character. Sow a character, reap a destiny. This brings out the need for a very concrete understanding of habit.
I see habit as a intersection of knowledge,skill and desire. Knowledge is the theoretical paradigm, the what to do and why. Skill is how to do. And desire is the motivation, the want to do. These three factors are the major ingredients for developing a great habit.
In his book “The 7 habits of highly effective people”,Stephen Covey has brilliantly stated three phases to being a highly proactive person. In his words “Life is,by nature, highly interdependent”.
He emphasised on being a independent person first,which provides a smooth transition to highest state of interdependence. Because you see, interdependence is a choice only independent people can make.
Here we are in the concluding phase, talking about solutions to be more proactive.
Self awareness is the key. Project yourself , and analyze how better you could have reacted to the situations you face. Many situations in life needs introspection so that we don’t repeat that mistakes again. Allot time in your day for self introspection.
Secondly, languages of reactive people absolves them from responsibility. Avoid the usage of languages such as “He makes me mad”,“I can’t handle this environment”,“There is nothing I can do about it”.
Lastly, remember there are two circles : Circle of influence and Circle of concern.Circle of concern revolves around the things over which we have no real control. Circle of influence are things which we can do something about. Find out your circle of concern and react to that situation using your circle of influence.
Personal leadership is not a singular experience.Journey of thousand miles must begin with a single step. New year, new start and way to go. Happy new year 😀
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