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Man up..Tamil Cinema!

A beautiful girl walks the street, you look at her, and you instantly “fall” in love with her. As some might call it, love at first sight. Now, what do you do next is the real question here.

If you were a normal guy from a decent background, you would go up to her and confess your love respectfully and in a dignified way and walk away from her if she says NO, and if you weren’t and your Instagram bio reads “cinema paithiyam” or “xyz veriyan””, then you’re going to probably do everything within your reach to “make” her fall in love with you. I dedicate this post to you, my friend. You think I’m typifying you? You’re thinking who is this guy blogging from some corner of the world? What does he know about love?

I’ll let you in on a little secret, I know you a little too well than you think I do! You’re in for a ride. First off, you are a movie freak and an ambassador of Hero Worship. You take movies way too seriously in life and you manipulate yourself into believing that incidents in your life are also loosely based on cinema. You listen to a lot of “Senjitaley” and strongly feel that “tholla pani alyaama theriyaama kedaikura kaadhaley venam venam”. Well, definitely you have a Facebook account (psst) where you add strangers and send them inappropriate messages until they have no choice but to reply. You’re a non-believer of this lame concept of “consent” that everybody seems to be talking about. Your idea of love is a type of conquest and if you loose, your fragile ego is going to be oh so butthurt. Poor thing! Portrayal of unrealistic women characters who do give a nod after continuous harassment and stalking has etched into your subconscious memory and asserted your insecurities with ” Yenna maari pasangala paaka paaka dhan pudikum”. I worry you will die single, if you don’t do these stunts. Hello, nice to meet you. Aforementioned actor has also confessed his bad dialogue/movie selection, he has also told he won’t do any more. But he failed to tell you that.

I wouldn’t blame the entire Tamil cinema. In fact, we do have great personalities like Ajith, AR Rahman, Maniratnam, Vikram, Suriya, Selvaraghavan who have gone on public record to say how badly Tamil cinema is taking shape these days and how fans need to be educated. Actor Ajith had gone to an extent wherein a scene in Vedalam he advices “Ponungala Vaazha vidunga” to a guy following his sister.

The intention of this post is to not to reprimand you, our Tamil Cinema movie makers, or anything, it is just to tell that these directors and actors are just playing their role in the movies. Their motivation is to make money and cinema is business. It is not a story with moral, and cinema isn’t meant to teach what’s right and what’s wrong, your upbringing should. So the point is my friend when a girl doesn’t comply with you, kids cry, adults pursue, and legends respect her emotion and walk away.

Have a great day. Peace.

Ideal decision making! The meritocratic way.

Let’s say you have decision to make about your career or business or relationship. Importance lies in making the decision with right balance of assertiveness and open mindedness.

We are intuitively wired up to disagree with the opinions which we think are right. That is great barrier for self growth. Isn’t it?.. Imagine we are struck up with our own blizzard of information and ideology. Although it doesn’t make sense to be submissive to any opinion or be aggressive too. Both are wrong. What makes sense is to strike a balance, knowing that you can be wrong, and be bit open minded. That is not as easy as we think, as greatly pointed out by Ray Dalio,Founder of a world’s successful hedge funding company, we have two sides of us inside us. One is intellectual, our thirst to learn and know things. Second is emotional, which is millions of years evolution. The point we have to understand is we are all bounded by our own thoughts and ideologies. Belief that we are always right about it. Spiritually speaking that is what I believe as “Karma” . That may totally affect the way we live and the decisions we make. Especially for a person like me who wishes to be a successful entrepreneur,that’s a huge tip. The decisions you are about to make will save you a lot of resources.

Ideal meritocratic decisions are what going to help us make the ideal decisions. On an interview, Barrack Obama has mentioned the same thing. During his presidential regime, when he is bound to make decisions he is not proficient at or expert at, he calls experts in those topics, potentially people who disagree with each other. He observes the argument and disagreements and make the final decisions. Do not confuse this with democratic way. Democratic is never ideal too. What makes sense in giving all the members equal vote to give their opinions? There can be teachers,students and peers in the same room. It makes no sense to give the teacher and the student the veto power.

What are the internal qualities that we need to adapt to being open minded,receptive and be assertive at the same time? That is the ability to be intellectually inquisitive, that is what will make your journey. After the discussion, one person gets enlightened and other confirms his opinion. It is continuum for both the players. Once you have crossed the tunnel, you are never the same person again. Just like any good habit, you will never be willing to go back. Quality requires humility too, of course. So before making a decision next time thinking you are right, ask yourself, why do you think you are right?

Happy new year friends.